Rules of Engagement for a Successful WeddingJul 10, 2018
Rules followed by a person or a group while negotiations with opposition or war with enemies. Also known as ROE, the rules of engagement defines the conditions, manner, degree and circumstances in which actions can be taken.
There are certain rules of engagement which a bride and groom should follow before and after the wedding. A ring is a necessity which can be selected by a groom or a bride, or both, and there are various types of wedding rings. Planning for the wedding should be made carefully and tasks should be assigned to a person who is appropriate for that task, as both the families of bride and groom want to assist in wedding planning.
A formal announcement has to be made among parents of both the bride and groom along with close relatives. It is the responsibility of the bride’s parents to provide all the information for announcement.
Before the engagement party, you should decide the size and style of your party as per your budget. You should make sure that everyone who is invited to your party receives an invitation to the wedding.
During sad times when a couple has to tell their family, relatives and friends that there won't be a wedding, it is the duty of the bride to return the ring if it is her decision to call off the wedding and the groom has to give the ring to the bride if the wedding is called off by him. This is done to respect each other for whatever decision has been made. Some relationships are unable to survive this stressful time when you find yourselves fighting over guest lists, because of some conflicts in each other’s families.
For a successful wedding planning, make all the decisions yourself without including your parents or siblings. You should mutually decide the time, location and guest list before announcing your wedding or engagement among your family members. You can listen to your family members and others but take your own decision at the end.
Avoid making wedding announcement on social media such as Facebook, twitter, etc. if your guest list is limited so that you don’t offend anyone. Both the bride and the groom have to work together to plan the wedding.
Your parents' first meeting should be before the engagement party so that they get adequate time to know each other which can happen smoothly over a tea or a dinner party. Bride and groom can plan their wedding party with any other big celebration such as birthday of bride or groom but should avoid holidays like Christmas, Valentine’s Day or Thanksgiving as guests may have other plans.
You are going to have conflicts after marriage, as nobody is perfect. These conflicts are like trash which has to be taken out otherwise it will stink, and not to be forgotten that every family has this trash. A couple can practice repentance and forgiveness to this trash out of their family. Decide on what has to be done, as per the act of your spouse and the situation, whether you have to overlook it, say something or just wait for a right time to discuss it.
You should deal with the conflict with patience avoiding anger, because anger and quarrel often increases the conflict. During conflict always remember that there is a bigger Almighty, so that you can control your tongue and fight for saving the marriage and not against the marriage. Do not vent your frustrations about your own personal life on your spouse, but release those frustrations in a positive and productive way such as talking about the Almighty with a friend or your spouse or distract yourself.